Supporting a Loved One Through a Dementia Diagnosis
Receiving - or anticipating - a dementia diagnosis can feel overwhelming. Many families describe a mix of worry, sadness, fear of the unknown, and a strong desire to “do the right thing.” If this resonates with you, you are not alone.
At the same time, it’s important to pause and remember this: a diagnosis does not take away the person you love, nor does it mean independence has to disappear overnight. With the right support, understanding, and partnership, many people continue to live meaningful, connected lives for years after diagnosis.
Acknowledge the Worry - Without Letting It Take Over
It’s natural to worry about safety, the future, and how things might change. Families often feel a strong urge to step in, take over, or protect their loved one from difficulty or distress.
While these instincts come from love, doing too much too soon can unintentionally affect confidence, independence, and wellbeing.
Instead, try to:
Notice what your loved one can still do, not just what feels harder
Allow space for choice, decision-making, and contribution
Talk openly, honestly, and kindly about what support feels helpful
Dementia Support Works Best as a Partnership
Dementia is not something one person should face alone - but support works best with someone, not to them.
A partnership approach means:
Involving your loved one in conversations and decisions about their life
Respecting their identity, preferences, routines, and values
Working together to adapt, rather than replacing independence
Small adjustments can make a big difference - whether that’s changing how something is done, breaking tasks into steps, or allowing more time rather than taking over.
Confidence Comes from Doing, Not Being Protected From Life
Confidence and wellbeing are closely linked. When someone is supported to keep doing the things that matter to them - hobbies, relationships, roles, routines - they are more likely to feel valued, capable, and emotionally well.
You can help by:
Encouraging everyday activities that bring meaning or enjoyment
Supporting familiar routines
Focusing on abilities and strengths
Offering reassurance without removing autonomy
Doing less for someone and more with them often supports independence for longer.
Supporting Wellbeing - For Both of You
Dementia affects the whole family. Looking after your own wellbeing is not selfish - it is essential.
Support might include:
Talking with someone who understands dementia
Learning practical, person-centred strategies
Having space to reflect, ask questions, and plan gently for the future
Early support can reduce anxiety, improve communication, and help families feel more confident and prepared.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
I support families to:
Understand dementia in a compassionate, realistic way
Build confidence in supporting independence and wellbeing
Develop a partnership approach that feels right for your family
Whether you are at the point of questioning changes, approaching a diagnosis, or adjusting after one, I offer guidance that is practical, person-centred, and grounded in respect for the person living with dementia.
If you’d like to talk about how I can support you or your family, please get in touch